My name is Vince Wishart. I am a Co-Creator & Transformational Facilitator of LoveAlive Transformative Arts & Therapy Registered Therapeutic Counsellor Advanced NLP/Life/Recovery Coach. With a focus on Advanced Recovery, I tend to work with people with 5 years or more in recovery from addictions. I also work with clients experiencing relationship difficulties. I also coach those who need a manageable plan to get themselves to their goals, therapeutic and otherwise. I teach The Secrets to Thriving Relationships 16 week course and have taught Sacred Language courses both with my Beloved. I facilitate Healing from Religious Oppression circles. I facilitate Men’s Peaceful Warrior therapeutic circles. I facilitate weekly Wellbriety Therapeutic circles for the past 6 years. I work in individual counselling/coaching. I work in fast change NLP realms and longer process work of counselling. Both are important in their own rank. Either way, Transformative is possible.
I have been in recovery myself for 25 years, and have seen some challenges with the traditional 12 step recovery model IE low recovery rates. The recovery offerings I have been facilitating have proven to have a 100% success rate over the past 6 years. I have discovered some tweaks along the way that have long-term lasting results.
Many are carrying traumas from their ancestors that were handed to them as a gift to heal in this life. This sometimes does not feel like a gift at all at first. Once transformed, the giftedness tends to reveal itself. “Our greatest struggles and adversities, become our greatest strengths.” You need not face these things alone. Together, we can face these things with courage, until they no longer have power over you.
At LoveAlive we have a creed: “We do not allow our outside circumstances, real or imagined, dictate to us our inside state.” So, while these times may be difficult, there are ways to remain in peace. May we find that for you now.
Therapies In Practice
Major Areas of Practice
General Areas of Support
Specializations in Practice
Spirituality
Abuse
Trauma
Career / Vocation / Higher Education
Marriage / Partnership / Family
Addictions / Impulse Control Issues
How is talking to a close friend different than counselling?
It may seem similar if your friend is a good listener, supportive and caring about what is happening in your life. It is very important that in therapy these qualities exist and form the foundation to the relationship with your therapist. However, with a close friend there is a back and forth process, you will both share aspects of your life, compare experiences and give each other advice. While in therapy, the focus will always be on you, and never on the therapist. Friends will lean on each other, and only the therapist will be leaned on for support.
Counsellors are trained on many levels of human development and emotional/cognitive/somatic/brain processing and integration. Depending on their approach and training they will respond to you in ways that facilitate the kinds of changes you want in your life. I may focus your attention, help you slow down or make suggestions that facilitate a deeper present felt experience to integrate new experiences and perspectives.
Therapy maximizes the potentiality for positive and lasting change. When friends/partners try to be your ‘therapist’ (especially if they are not trained) they will often end up feeling drained, resentful and become controlling.
How am I suppose to open up to someone I don't know, a stranger ?
I can see how this could seem a bit awkward if you have never done anything like this before. Most people who have tried it, believe it is actually much easier to speak freely and openly with someone who is not associated with them at all. When they bring the ethical considerations of confidentiality, then it becomes even easier as the client's trust in the safety of the container is being held in a good way.
The relationship we form and everything we talk about is confidential. That means no one will know about it unless you tell them. It stays between you and me.
You have a choice about which therapist to see. This is why I offer a free 1/2hr consultation so we can meet in person first and you can check out whether you want to work with me before proceeding.
Do people become dependent on their counsellor?
As we understand from attachment theory is that people often have an unhealthy attachment from their caregivers early in life. In therapy sessions a healthy attachment can be formed and modelled. This healthy form of attachment can then be brought into the clients other relationships.
As your counsellor, I am interested in paying attention to you and ‘knowing’ you. It is easy to see how fears of dependency might be activated when this kind of attention is seen as dangerous. I see my job as helping you process these struggles and move towards secure attachment in a safe way.
